Written in Full.

If you need someone to talk to

This site, like the book, asks direct questions about grief, shame, addiction and violence. Nobody is supervising it, and it cannot respond to you.

If you are in crisis right now, this is the wrong place. Close the page and call somebody.

If you are in danger now

  • Find A Helpline · findahelpline.com · verified crisis lines in 130+ countries, searchable by country and subject
  • United States and Canada · call or text 988 · Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 24 hours
  • UK and Ireland · 116 123 · samaritans.org · Samaritans, 24 hours
  • Australia · 13 11 14 · lifeline.org.au · Lifeline, 24 hours
  • Text support, US · text HOME to 741741 · crisistextline.org

Europe

National crisis and listening lines; hours vary.

  • Switzerland 143
  • Germany 0800 111 0 111
  • Austria 142
  • France 3114
  • Spain 024
  • Italy 800 860 022
  • Netherlands 113
  • Sweden 90101
  • Norway 116 123
  • Denmark 70 201 201
  • Finland 09 2525 0111

Asia, Africa, Latin America, Pacific

  • India 9152987821
  • Japan 0570 783 556
  • Hong Kong 2896 0000
  • Philippines 1553
  • New Zealand 1737
  • South Africa 0800 567 567
  • Kenya 1190
  • Brazil 188
  • Mexico 800 911 2000
  • Argentina 135

Sexual violence, past or present

  • RAINN, US · 1-800-656-4673 · rainn.org
  • Rape Crisis, England and Wales · 0808 500 2222
  • NAPAC, UK · 0808 801 0331 · napac.org.uk · for adults who were abused as children
  • The Survivors Trust, UK · thesurvivorstrust.org

Abuse at home

  • National Domestic Violence Hotline, US · 1-800-799-7233 · thehotline.org
  • Refuge, UK · 0808 2000 247 · refuge.org.uk
  • Men’s Advice Line, UK · 0808 8010 327

If you are the one doing the harm

These services work with people who want to change it. They are not law enforcement, though some have reporting duties where a child is at risk.

Drink, drugs and compulsion

Grief, and finding someone to talk to properly

Checked August 2026. Services change; verify before relying on them.